Happy New Year!!!...

 

No act of kindness is ever wasted...

 

"No act of kindness, however small, is ever wasted." --- Aesop.

Awww... Bunny Hugs...

***OF COURSE, as a writer I WOULD value journaling... ;)

 

How to Start Journalling For Mental, Emotional and Spiritual Growth...

Journalling is possibly one of the most simple but profound tools out there for enhancing your well-being on every level (mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual).

In fact, journalling is such a useful practice that I recommend it non-stop in the articles I publish throughout this site and to those I mentor privately. When it comes to self-growth and spiritual maturation, journalling is probably one of the top five practices I recommend to everyone, no matter how good a person is at writing or not.

Thankfully, you don’t have to be particularly good at writing to benefit from journalling. Not only that, but you don’t even have to worry about things like grammar or spelling – none of those fussy details matter at all. What does matter is the attitude and intention you bring to journalling. Are you interested in growing and learning more about yourself? Great! The desire to learn is the entire point of journalling. Therefore, as long as you’re sincere about discovering more about yourself, you’ve already succeeded! When it comes to journalling, there’s nothing to master but your own ability to be self-aware.

But understandably, journalling doesn’t come naturally to everyone. So if you’re struggling to get motivated, I’ll share with you some of my best advice in this article.

What is Journalling?

Journalling is the practice of writing down your thoughts and feelings for the purposes of self-analysis, self-discovery, and self-reflection. As one of the oldest forms of self-help in the world, journalling is about exploring one’s own thoughts, feelings, impulses, memories, goals, and hidden desires through the written word. As such, journalling is often prescribed by therapists, counselors, and spiritual mentors as a powerful way of developing more self-understanding and compassion.

Primarily, journalling is about exploration: exploring who you are, what you think, how you feel, and the way in which you process life’s daily events. As a byproduct, more clarity and insight is gained about your mind and emotions, leading to heightened self-awareness. The more self-aware a person is, the more well-adjusted, grounded and balanced they will feel, despite what is going on around them. Therefore, journalling helps us to find inner stability and gives us the ability to untangle ourselves from self-destructive forms of behavior and negative thought patterns.

18 Benefits of Journalling

For something so simple, there are an amazing number of benefits linked to journalling. These benefits are both subjective (personally felt) and objective (scientifically proven).

Here’s are some of the many benefits:

Strengthens your immune system and leads to better physical health (source)

Improves emotional intelligence (the ability to perceive and understand emotions)

Soothes anxiety and increases feelings of calmness (source)

Promotes individuation (the maturing of the self/identity)

Enhances mental health (source)

Helps you to deal better with depression (source)

Encourages spiritual growth and integration

Reduces symptoms related to panic, PTSD, and addiction (source)

Increased self-awareness, self-understanding, and self-compassion

Improves your ability to communicate with others (source)

Increases happiness (source)

Promotes mental clarity and problem-solving skills

Helps you to deal with stress and intrusive thoughts more effectively (source)

Increases creativity

Improves your work efficiency (source)

Can help to improve your IQ (source)

Speeds up emotional recovery after romantic breakups (source)

Promotes emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual healing

… and I’m sure there are many other benefits I haven’t mentioned here. For something so basic, this list shows a stunning array of benefits which virtually anyone can receive! All we need to do is learn how to make journalling a daily practice.

How to Start Journalling

My love affair with journalling started at the young age of 10. I think the first ever journal entry I wrote was about my goldfish who had died and how sad I was. Being a sensitive introvert, recording my thoughts just seemed to come naturally to me as it allowed me to process what I was going through. Journalling was also a private space to open my mind and heart and share what I was too shy to tell others. In my teenage years, I journalled each and every day without fail, and it was a lifesaver. Journalling was probably the number one thing that got me through all of the depression, fear insecurity, and confusion of growing up – particularly during my process of spiritual awakening and the turmoil of separation from my family.

As I’ve matured, I now feel much more comfortable sharing my thoughts and feelings publically (through this website), but I do still record private thoughts and feelings every few weeks or so. To me, journalling has been one of the most powerful instruments for mental, emotional, and spiritual growth I have ever used. Without this daily practice, I don’t think I would have ever learned half of what I know now.

But journalling is not all sunshine and roses: it can be misused. For example, when approached in the wrong way, journalling can lead to excessive self-absorption and wallowing in self-pity. It’s important to take a structured and solution-oriented approach to recording your thoughts, otherwise, you could be doing more harm than good. I have made the mistake of using journalling as a vehicle for blame and self-justification before, so be careful of using journalling solely for the purpose of ranting and raving without true self-analysis.

When approached in a healthy way, journalling can lead to decreased emotional reactivity, more mindfulness, tolerance, understanding, and ultimately improved relationships both with yourself and other people. In this way, journalling helps you to let go of emotional and mental suffering and feel more inner peace. The direct and indirect benefits of journalling are probably limitless.

If you want to start journalling – or have tried in the past but never made a habit out of it – here are some of my best tips:

1. Don’t worry about the medium

Many people wonder whether paper diaries or digital diaries are better. My response is that none of them are superior: it all depends on the person. If you like to cogitate over your thoughts and go slowly, writing in a traditional paper diary might be the best for you. However, if you prefer the convenience of typing and if you like to move quickly with your thoughts, you might like to try an online diary or note-taking app such as Evernote, Microsoft OneNote, Penzu or another password secure website. Try exploring both and see what you like better.

2. Keep your diary private

Your diary should be for your eyes only – it isn’t to be shared on your Facebook page, Instagram account, Youtube channel, or other social media platform. It shouldn’t even be shared with your friends, partner or family members. Why? Because when we share thoughts and feelings with others, we tend to screen them for acceptability. Your journal should be a place where you can write freely without the fear of judgment or scrutiny – this is why it’s better to keep it private. No one is saying that you can’t share some of your private reflections verbally with others, but just try to keep what you have written to yourself.

You might also like to find a way of keeping your diary secure. You could use a password protected website like Evernote or, if you are using a physical diary, get a lock and key (or hide it really well)! The more confident you are that your thoughts will stay private, the easier it will be for you to write without inhibition.

3. Don’t bother with spelling, grammar, and punctuation

As a perfectionist, it took me many years to stop editing my journal entries for spelling errors and grammatical mistakes. Yes, I know that might sound silly, but for us precisionists, it can be hard to just let go and write “without abandon.” Eventually, I realized that editing my journal entries actually stopped my flow of thoughts and feelings because I was too busy trying to “play by the rules.” Try to avoid being anal-retentive about writing: just let it all out – it feels so much better! I don’t even play by the capitalization or sentence structure rules anymore when it comes to writing in my journal (and for me, that’s saying a lot!).

4. Forget about being a “good writer”

The purpose of journalling isn’t to write a literary masterpiece, it is to self-reflect and record the thoughts and feelings you’ve been having for self-growth. Simply write whatever comes to mind and don’t worry about whether it sounds poetic or eloquent.

5. Set a regular time of day

Making journalling into a habit requires you to set aside time every day. I like to personally write at the end of the day, but you might be different. Pick one period of the day and try to stick to it. For example, you might like to write first thing in the morning, after morning tea, after lunch time, or last thing at night. If you feel inspired to write at a time of the day you’re not accustomed to writing, just flow with it. There are no set-in-stone rules here.

6. Write your deepest thoughts and feelings

Journalling is an intuitive activity because it requires you to tune into your feelings and blurt all of that out on paper. For me, and many others, journalling is the most effective when it is a space where our deepest thoughts and feelings can be shared and mulled over. For instance, I love exploring my latest emotional insights, problems, and existential epiphanies in my journal. Sometimes I will write for a minute, and at other times I will write for up to an hour: it all depends on how I am feeling. So don’t be afraid to delve deeply into your mind and heart.

7. There’s no need for time restrictions

Try to avoid setting rigid time limits: it’s best just to allow your writing to flow. Of course, in an ideal world, we’d all have plenty of time to journal, but that’s often not possible. So sometimes time restrictions are necessary (i.e. if you have an extremely busy life). But if you have a bit of spare time, enjoy the feeling of letting your inner self materialize on paper. There’s no need to “set aside ten minutes a day” as many people recommend – I find that time restrictions tend to make journalling into a chore rather than an enjoyable self-growth activity. But, as I said, if you have limited time available, time restrictions can come in handy.

8. If you’re struggling, ask these questions …

Sometimes we just don’t feel “in the flow” of writing, and sharing our thoughts doesn’t come naturally. As an author and blogger, I get this frequently: it’s just part of the natural ebb and flow of life. If you ever feel this way, here are some useful question you can ask yourself which will stimulate thought:

How am I feeling today?

What is an issue I’m facing?

What can I do about my most recent problem?

What spiritual lesson is hidden in a difficult situation I’m facing?

What thoughts are triggering my current feelings?

Why do I keep having these thoughts?

What was the message hidden in last night’s dream?

What do I feel the need to change or improve about myself? (And why?)

Am I being self-compassionate?

Am I seeing the entire picture?

How am I being dishonest with myself or others?

In what ways can I be more mindful?

What mistaken beliefs am I buying into?

What is my plan of action to achieve my goals?

What setbacks and obstacles am I facing?

These are only a few of the many potential questions you can ask yourself. I personally prefer to just allow my thoughts and feelings “vomit” out onto the page – but other people prefer a more structured approach. So if you’re one of those people, you might like to keep a list of questions like the one above, close by.

9. Don’t be afraid to explore traumatic experiences

Journalling is about growth, and growth often includes digesting past experiences. Sometimes the experiences we went through in the past were disturbing, traumatic or upsetting. Don’t be afraid to explore these experiences – but just remember not to wallow in self-pity. It’s OK to express your feelings

loud and clear on paper; this is a terrific form of catharsis. But once you start ruminating and obsessing over these past experiences, then it’s time to switch to your left hemisphere brain and start thinking about how you can overcome the pain inside of you practically.

10. Reflect on what you’ve written

After you’ve finished your journal entry, you might like to read back over what you’ve written with the intention of gaining clarity. As I mentioned previously, try not to nitpick your writing – spelling and all the rules of writing are irrelevant here. What matters is that you gain a big picture perspective on how you think and feel. If any thoughts, feelings or realizations stand out to you, try highlighting them. You might like to create a table of contents at the end of the notebook (if it is physical) and write down the page numbers that correspond to your mental breakthroughs. If you’re using a digital diary, try to tag your entry with something like “epiphanies” or “important realizations” so that you can easily access these thoughts later.

Personally, reflection on what I wrote was one of the best ways to emotionally and mentally metabolize the most difficult experiences in my life. Reflection is what allows you to integrate your thoughts into knowledge, understanding, and inner transformation.

11. Write for the joy of it

Don’t journal out of duty or obligation, do it because you enjoy doing it! Journalling isn’t for everyone, so if you don’t resonate with it, that’s OK. There’s probably something else out there equally as beneficial. But if you do enjoy and benefit from this practice, pay attention to the benefits! Don’t just make journalling into something else to check off your “to-do” list. I like to notice how much mental and emotional clarity I have after journalling, and it is those feelings and discoveries that keep me going.

***

I hope this advice helps to give you a bit more direction and motivation. Even just spending a few minutes a day recording how you feel is hugely beneficial, this is because journalling helps you to read your own mind and make sense of all the mental clutter and emotional turbulence you feel inside.

As a self-awareness and self-discovery tool, journalling is second to none in my opinion. When we explore our thoughts, we’re not living second-hand knowledge or seeing ourselves through the eyes of some “professional” – instead, we are actively seeking to understand, through direct experience, who we are and what we value the most at a core level. --- Orla Kelly.

The Biggest Lesson Learned This Year...

 

The biggest lesson learned this year is probably not to give so much of yourself to people who will not do the same to you. 

Kitty Poses & Doggy Grins... ;)

 

Tender paws, --- a walk in the snow...

 

"Hi, I'm back from my morning walk."

Year's end is not the end or a beginning...

 

"Year's end is not the end or a beginning, but a going on with all the wisdom that experience can instill in us ." --- Hal Borland. (From "Lucy, The Senior Cat Gal.")

I'm not much for New Year's Resolutions, but this is really good advice...

 

9 Things To Quit:

1. Trying to please everyone

2. Fearing change

3. Living in the past

4.Overthinking

5.Being afraid to be different

6. Beating yourself up over mistakes

7. Sacrificing your happiness for others

8. Thinking you're not good enough

9. Thinking you have no purpose

Wisdom from Marilyn Monroe...

 

"Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together." --- Marilyn Monroe.

(And, some people thought she was stupid.) 

"What A Wonderful World," --- sung by Louis Armstrong...

 

He's an elf too, --- probably one of the Sidhe...

 

...one of the Tuathua de Dannan, the noble trooping Faeries of Eire.

"A Visit From St. Nicholas"...

 

"'T was the night before Christmas, and all through the house,

Not a creature was stirring, not even a mouse.

The stockings were hung by the chimney with care in hopes that Saint Nicholas soon would be there.

The children were nestled all snug in their beds, while visions of sugar plums danced in their heads.

And, Ma in her kerchief and I in my cap, had just settled our brains for a long winter's nap.

When, out on the lawn there arouse such a clatter, I sprang from my bed to see what was the matter!

Away to the window I flew like a flash, tore open the shutters and threw up the sash!

The moon on the breast of the new fallen snow gave the luster of mid-day to objects below.

When what to my wondering eyes should appear, but a miniature sleigh and eight tiny reindeer!

With a little old driver, so lively and quick, I knew in a moment it must be Saint Nick! 

More faster than eagles his coursers they came, and he whistled and shouted and called them by name,...

'On Dasher, on Dancer, on Prancer and Vixen, on Comet, on Cupid, on Donner and Blitzen, --- to the top of the house, to the top of the wall! Now, dash away, dash away, dash away all!'

 As dry leaves before the wild hurricane fly, when they meet without obstacle, mount to the sky,

So, up to the house top the reindeer they flew, with a sleigh full of toys and Saint Nicholas too!

And, then, in a twinkling I heard on the roof, the prancing and pawing of each tiny hoof.

As I pulled in my head and was turning around, down the chimney Saint Nicholas came with a bound!

He was dressed all in fur from his head to his foot, and his clothes were all tarnished with ashes and soot.

A bundle of toys he had flung on his back and he looked like a peddler just opening his pack.

The stump of a pipe he held tight in his teeth and the smoke, it encircled his head like a wreath.

His eyes, how they twinkled, his dimples, how merry, his cheeks were like roses, his nose like a cherry!

His droll little mouth was drawn up like a bow, and the beard on his chin was as white as the snow.

He was chubby and plump, a right jolly old elf, and I laughed when I saw him, in spite of myself!

A wink of his eye and a nod of his head soon gave me to know I had nothing to dread.

He spoke not a word, but went straight to his work.

He filled every stocking, then turned with a jerk.

And, laying his finger beside his nose and giving a nod, up the chimney he rose!

He sprang to his sled, to his team gave a whistle, and away they all flew, like the down of a thistle!

And, I heard him exclaim, as he drove out of sight, "Happy Christmas to all, and to all a good night!"

--- Clement C. Moore, --- December 23, 1823.

Yummy Elf-On-The-Shelf...

 

Yellow Lab: "I ate the Elf-On-The-Shelf."

German Shepherd: "I helped because he is creepy."

Of course, there REALLY, REALLY are people who are grinches the whole year around...

 ...Who seem to want to suck the joy and spontaneity out of everything and everyone, leaving it all as miserable as they are...

Should you reach out to them in this season of hope, renewal and brotherly love???... DON'T.

Toxic people don't realize how awful and poisonous they are. They see themselves as heroes who are valiantly trying to set the multitudes of "fools" around them straight, not knowing that the "fools" (normal folks) look at them with horror and revulsion.

How do I know this???... I know it especially because it was explained to me in some detail by a narcissist who thought he was doing me a favor. 😣😬😐 

Now, not all toxic people are narcissists... 

But, trying to get a narcissist to see how mentally ill they are is like trying to explain to someone born without a sense of smell, who has never smelled anything in their whole life, how beautiful the scent of a rose is. (Then, they laugh cruelly at you and say that nothing is fragrant, or ever will be.)

(Sigh.) Best to leave all toxic people be, get away from them, if you can. (Sometimes, you work with a toxic person, or there is one who is a member of your family.) 

Sadly, I guess, it's hard to care; --- narcissism is incurable. Yet... Don't let toxic people, of any type, drag you down. (They like to drag you down because they believe the worse they make you look the better they will seem to be, in comparison. Yeah, I know... Sick.) 

Be brave. Look up, laugh, love, lift. 💕💕💕 (As corny as that sounds) 😁 You will have friends. People will love you, if you love and ask nothing in return. 

And, the toxic people, unless a major change happens to them, will eventually be alone, getting back exactly how much love they gave, which, of course, is none. You remember the case of Ebenezer Scrooge???... Karma, the unrelenting, or rather the "ghosts," sure showed him. 💀💀💀..

You just can't treat people like crap 💩 and have a happy life. 

You'll love this Yule goat tradition!!!...

 Some of the cutest goats I've ever seen, --- fluffy and spotted with sweet little stand-out ears!!!... 💖💖💖!!!

A cocoa colored feline beauty!!!...

 💖💖💖, --- but, he doesn't look that friendly... 🙀😾😡

***Watch recorded LIVE 2021 Winter Solstice glorious gradual sunrise at Stonehenge, --- STUNNING!!!...

 

Believe there is good in the world...

 

Who Are The Nisse???...

It is pronounced "nissa". It is traditional to leave a bowl of porridge out for the nisse on the night of the Winter Solstice. Put a nice pat of butter on the nisse's porridge because that's the way he likes it best. 😛😋😍 

 

The Germanic Origins Of Yule...

 

What is Stonehenge???...

 

A Cup Of Hot Chocolate ***(Deluxe recipe)...

 

--- A cup of milk

--- Chocolate syrup

--- Pure vanilla extract

---Whipped cream or marshmallows

... Heat milk slowly on the stove in a small pan, stirring constantly so it doesn't burn on the bottom of the pan. When milk steams add plenty of chocolate syrup, and 1/4 of a teaspoon of pure vanilla extract, stir, stir, stir. Remove from heat. Pour into cup, add whipped cream, stir once, or pop in marshmallows. Enjoy. 😍

***Tomorrow is Yule...

 

...The Winter Solstice, --- shortest day & the Longest Night Of The Year.

Clips from "The Spiderwick Chronicles"... (Loved this movie!!!)...

 

Let's watch the stars...

 

"Let's watch the stars fill the night with magic."

--- Christy Ann Martine.

***SHARE THIS IMAGE TO KEEP CATS SAFE!!!...

 

***Bang on the hood of your car before starting it. YOU COULD SAVE A LIFE. 💖

Cats might crawl inside the car's hood to get warmth from the engine and fall asleep... The person comes back to start their car and the cat is badly injured from the engine's fan blades!... HORRIBLE!!!... 🙀

This can be prevented by banging on the hood of your car before you get into it to start it. The asleep cat will then jump out. 

PLEASE TAKE A MOMENT TO ALWAYS DO THIS IN THE WINTER. Thanks. 😻

The Spark...

 

Know that the same spark of life that is within you is within all our animal friends. The desire to live is the same within all of us.

The older I get...

 

THE OLDER I GET THE MORE I REALIZE IT IS OKAY TO LIVE A LIFE THAT OTHERS DO NOT UNDERSTAND.

When your cat gives you a precious gift...

 

"Gakkk, --- a SNAKE!!!"... 😵

You might react this way, BUT THINK ABOUT IT A MINUTE... Your cat is giving you this creature as a gift. (And, these little critters are hard to catch!) 🐞🐍🐀🐁🐦Actually, it's very touching for your kitty to do this for you. 😻After all, your kitty is only a cat; it's all she/he can give... 

So, don't break your cat's heart 😿by disrespecting her/his gift, or worse yet, punish your kitty for it.  (How would you like to be punished for giving someone a gift?) Instead, thank your cat with praise, --- and later, without your cat seeing, dispose of or free the thing. 

Consider, your cat believes you to be a poor hunter and she/he is providing for you.  💖💖💖😽 

Indiana Jones...

 

Indiana Jones: "It's not the years, Honey. It's the mileage."

A Very Easy Recipe For Delicious Homemade Chicken Soup...

 "Bacilli swarm within my portals

 Such as never conceived by mortals,

 But, breed by scientists,

 Wise and hoary

  In some Olympian laboratory.

  Bacteria as large as mice

  With feet of fire and heads of ice,

  Who never interrupt for slumber

  Their stomping elephantine rumba."

 --- "The Common Cold," by Ogden Nash.

"Very Easy Homemade Chicken Soup"...

1 whole raw chicken with skin  or 1 package raw chicken parts

A few tbs. or more of wet chicken bouillon stock mix from a jar

 A few cans mixed vegetables

Garlic powder, onion powder, black pepper

A box of elbow macaroni

--- In a large pot, boil the chicken, minus the giblets, till the meat falls off the bones. Remove chicken from the pot, save chicken water. Remove chicken skin and bones from cooked chicken, break meat into pieces, set aside. Bring chicken water to a boil, add macaroni, stirring once or twice so the mac doesn't stick to the bottom of the pot. Cook mac till done. Add a few tablespoons of chicken bouillon stock to the mac and chicken water, to taste, sprinkle in onion powder and garlic powder and pepper, to taste. Add cans of mixed vegetables. Add cooked chicken meat. Serve with crackers. (This soup keeps well in the frig, or you can freeze it. It will be better the next day when the flavors have melded.)